Contraception for married couples has done more to wreck individual marriages than most people realize.
Using birth control accompanies many, if not most, marriages from their very beginning. Users undercut the very vows they took on their wedding day.
What follows are three ways in which birth control use subverts marriage.
1. Using Birth Control Contradicts the Primary Purpose of Marriage: Having Children
The entire purpose of using contraception is to limit the number of children born into a family. Thus, in its essence, contraception intends to frustrate the natural reproductive process by which children enter this world.
When a couple enters the Sacrament of Matrimony, they are supposed to welcome any subsequent children. After all, the meaning of the word ‘Matrimony’ is ‘the making of a mother.’
The marital vows include an openness to having children. Users of contraception break such vows.
2. Birth Control Use Makes Impossible the Second Purpose of Marriage: For the Unity and Sanctity of the Spouses
The conjugal act, by its nature, remains an intimate act. It is meant for the total giving to the other and the complete reception of the other.
Yet, contraception seeks to put a wall up between the spouses.
It says to one another, “I love you, except I reject your fertility.” Clearly, this is anything but a totality in exchange of persons during the conjugal act. Instead, it’s an unnatural barrier (often literally) between the spouses. Here during their most intimate, exclusive act they do together, they defy the act’s meaning.
“Therefore, in such a case the conjugal act, deprived of its interior truth because it is artificially deprived of its procreative capacity, ceases also to be an act of love,” explains Pope Saint John Paul II.
And congratulations on owning the most-expensive car in your neighborhood. Something tells me, though, God is not impressed.
3. Ponder How Contraception for Married Couples Remains a Selfish Act
The pride involved in using contraception often goes unchecked. It is so apparent, yet no one wants to confront it.
What does using contraception for married couples say?
For one, it says they are not open to God’s input on their family size. Thus, they are defying divine revelation, as we know God opposes using contraception.
For another, users are deciding for themselves who is allowed to come into existence. They won’t “let nature take its course,” and leave it up to God. Instead, they seek to literally play God with their fertility.
As well, contraception for married couples displays a lack of trust in God. Rather than trust Him when He says children are a blessing, they seek to limit His outpouring of gifts to their marriage. What hubris!
Although more could be said, we might add that using contraception for married couples often involves greed. Or avarice, at the very least. The motivation to use the Pill, to get sterilized, or what have you, often involves valuing stuff over people—namely one’s own spouse and children.
You defied God’s will for your marriage, but hey, at least you can afford that tropical vacation! And congratulations on owning the most-expensive car in your neighborhood. Something tells me, though, God is not impressed. Valuing creature comforts over God’s commands likely won’t end well.
Consider putting away the condoms and birth control devices. Instead, pray an ask God to reveal to you His will for your marriage. He does not intend for you to use unnatural and artificial means to defy your marital union. Rest assured.
Using contraception for married couples leads to marital ruin.
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