Undoubtedly, the most unpopular of Catholic teachings is its condemnation of birth control. With its use so common, it is hard for many to understand why some married Catholics choose to live with no birth control.
“Just get with the program already, you Papists.”
“Come down from your high horse, you holy rollers.”
“Just get with the times, you medieval moral dinosaurs.”
Given the onslaught of persecution, it is tough for many to persevere in the faith. The near silence from the pulpit to offer encouragement in this area does not help matters either. Outrageously, some clergy even defy Church teaching by counseling couples they may use birth control.
Thus, for the people who hold out and hold to the truth, I want to commend you.
I realize being married and not using birth control is not unique to Catholics. So if you’re Protestant (or of any other faith), consider yourself commended here as well.
Maybe you always opposed birth control use. Or perhaps you learned a hard lesson and have promised to God live on with no birth control. Either way, you stand among a select few who deserve tremendous credit.
I imagine you are not out to prove your holiness to your neighbors. You’re not trying to flaunt your moral superiority over your contracepting siblings and family members.
Given the ridicule and raised eyebrows you face at family gatherings and even at Church picnics, it’s hard to see how you’re the culprit.
Know that deep-down people know you’re doing something right. You living out your faith gives them a visible reminder of their shortcomings. This pricks their conscience and so they react.
Maybe they make a rude remark at the grocery line checkout about how many kids you have in tow. Or it could be they are, let’s say, less than encouraging and excited when you announce you’re pregnant again.
So be it.
Soldier on, my friend. Smile and bear it.
You’re not seeking an award for Parent of the Year, or Holiest Catholic at your local parish. You’re just attempting to live out your faith in trust of God.
You take Him at His word that He will provide all of your temporal needs (Matt 6:25-34).
You want to get more sleep. You would like to eat a warm dinner every now and again. But you make such sacrifices out of love for your spouse and children.
The love that you display is the salt of the earth (Matt 5:13). The joy your family exudes speaks volumes to a fallen, broken, hopeless, fearful society.
For decades now our culture has embraced the contraceptive mentality and it has led to the crumbling of our society. Your refusal to give in, or at least to stop giving in, to such futility obviously stands out. Like a diamond in the rough.
You realize that Jesus said we must take up our Cross daily to walk with Him (Luke 9:23). For Jesus also said, many are called, but few are chosen (Matthew 22:14).
For such a contradiction to the culture, even among Church members, you stand out. But take heart, this is by design. As Christ told us we would be, should be like a light atop a hill (Matthew 5:14).
I hope you take heart with this. Are you feeling encouraged?
Do you have any encouragement to offer other folks who also hold out, refusing to give in the contraceptive mentality?
Please share below!
(Also, if you liked this post, you might also like my post about practicing Providentialism!)