So what if your homosexual neighbors get married? How will that affect your marriage?
I am sure you have heard this question before.
Proponents want to paint the ramifications of legalizing so-called “gay marriage” as rather insignificant. They want to pretend that this shift is merely for the sake of equality and will be harmless to society.
I beg to differ.
Here are seven ways so-called “gay marriage” does affect my marriage:
1. God Gets Left Out of the Equation
“The two became one flesh,” Genesis 2:24 reads, and Jesus repeats in Mark 10:8 (cf. Ephesians 5:31).
And so, God, the Creator of the Universe, instituted Matrimony. He even ordered human beings to multiply and to subdue the earth (Genesis 1:28, 9:7).
For mankind to defy the natural order of man-woman Matrimony in an exclusive, lifelong commitment destroys the institution of marriage altogether. Instead of being a vertical relationship, in simulation of the Trinity (each spouse, plus God), it becomes a horizontal connection instead.
Instead of being a union where God brought my wife and I together for life, we now are being told the only significance to our union comes from the state recognizing it as unique.
2. Gender Differences Become Irrelevant
It takes a male and a female to get married. This is just plain to see, as it is written into our human nature.
If so-called “gay marriage” were allowed, then it would make the gender of the spouses involved irrelevant. Male and male, female and female, male and female, they would all be considered the same.
This idea needs to be rejected on its face.
The gender differences of males and females, the “gay marriage” lobby would have you believe are accidental and irrelevant. They envision a world where such “inequality” is eradicated.
I am not going to be duped. Reality is there are real differences between men and women.
My wife is the heart of our family. She is wonderful at lending support to me and compassion to our children and to those around us.
Whereas, I am much more pragmatic, keeping us on task to overcome obstacles. I keep my defense up and try to protect our family from harm.
Together, we make a great team and we complete each other. I reject the notion that such complementarity in our union is meaningless and non-essential.
3. Confusingly, Children Become an Afterthought
“Gay marriage” proponents talk out of both sides of their mouth.
On the one hand, they point out that it seems children are irrelevant to marriage, since so few heterosexual couples are open to life. They raise a valid concern in pointing out the inconsistency, but that does not give them permission to create unions that are, in their very essence, sterile.
On the other hand, gay couples talk as if children are a “right,” instead of a God-given privilege.
Thanks to the advent of in vitro fertilization and lenient adoption agencies, an alarming rate of gay couples are able to raise children these days.
So which is it? Am I supposed to despise my children as nuisances, or am I supposed to embrace them—not because God lent them to me out of great love and grace—but because they are my possessions, or commodities like a car or a jet ski?
“Gay marriage” advocates can’t seem to make up their mind.
4. Natural Law Becomes an Obstacle to Overcome
Men and women are different creatures. The differences run deeper than just the plumbing inside their bodies. The complementarity of the two sexes allows for new human life to be created. It is almost as if this was all by design.
But again, if that is true, then that means males and females have a fundamental difference. And if that is true, then, as the pro-“gay marriage” crowd wants you to believe, then therein lies a fundamental inequality between the two sexes. Thus, natural law must be overcome, they say.
This too needs to be rejected on its face. Differences do not necessarily equate to inequalities. I refuse to ignore reality, I refuse to reorder society, and I refuse to let my marriage be downgraded in meaningfulness, just so 1 – 3% of our society’s members can openly defy natural law.
5. Apparently My Obligation to My Children No Longer Stands
Natural law dictates that parents are obligated to care for their children. Each person is born with this innate desire to care for children. Laws are set up to force absentee fathers to pay child support, for instance, in recognition of this natural law written on human nature.
Society today says children can be raised by two fathers or two mothers just as easily as a mother and a father together. This means that my being a biological father to my children takes on far less significance. So too for my wife being their biological mother.
If biology has nothing whatsoever to do with parenthood, then what is the meaning of parenthood?
6. My Children Will Be Told Marriage Equates to Merely Emotional Attachment
That’s what is at stake here: the emotional state of 1-3% of our countrymen. They feel discriminated against, and so they are working to rewrite our legal system. Again, just to feed their emotions.
Meanwhile, as my children grow up, they will be told all of this nonsense, including the notion that marriage is nothing more than the emotional attachment between the spouses. That’s all that matters in the end, is what they will be told.
Gender differences? No need. Open to life? Not necessary. Lifelong commitment in imitation of God’s covenant with His Church? Sorry, but we tossed that out too. What nonsense.
This type of society remains what I have to raise my children in and what they will need to navigate through. A world where reason is disregarded and emotional appeals rule the day. No thanks, those are not the values I will be instilling into my children.
7. My Children Will Grow Up to Meet People Who Were Purposely Depraved a Mother or a Father
The proponents of homosexual so-called “marriage” think that whoever raises children will have no impact on their well-being. This too defies natural law. Natural law requires we do what’s best for society, while respecting the well-being of the individual.
Research data remains conclusive that children do best when raised by both a mother and a father, in a stable household. “Gay marriage” advocates seek to destroy that paradigm, trying to make us believe a child does not need his father and/or his mother.
My children do not need to be told their parents are each insignificant. I am confident they will see they needed their mother’s steady nurturing and their father’s discipline to shape them into virtuous Catholics. I fail to see how they would be better off thinking each of their parents was inconsequential to their formation into adulthood.
IN CLOSING
No, even if my next door neighbors were all in legal so-called “gay marriages,” I would not love my wife any less and it would not end our union. But that does not mean that the society we live in won’t be disintegrating around us.
It already is.
YOUR TURN
Okay, I have to imagine people will want to weigh in on this one.
Please, share your thoughts below, in a civil manner.
Did I leave off an obvious #7 or #8 on this list?
Or, do you think one or more of these shouldn’t be included?
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