To equate sexual activity with love itself remains a big mistake. But this is what the promiscuous lifestyle essentially tries to do.
Since love remains what we are all searching for, the promiscuous lifestyle keeps attracting fools to its false promises. It only leaves its participants lonely and loveless. Like an empty shell game.
The promiscuous lifestyle is analogous to several other things, as well. Allow me to make a few comparisons.
TO WHAT SHALL WE COMPARE THE PROMISCUOUS LIFESTYLE?
Promiscuous lovers write out checks with their bodies, like making a deposit in their love bank account. They think the more sex they have, the more investment in love they are making.
But then they don’t get the return on their investment like they were seeking. The sex payout comes with no residuals, no dividends. Well, unless you count sexually transmitted diseases.
Rather than serve as an investment, like a mortgage payment, promiscuous sex is more like paying rent. So long as you keep paying, you are allowed use of the rental home. If the rent money dries up, soon enough you’ll need to find a new home to inhabit.
Similarly, so long as you keep paying out with your body in sexual activity, you buy yourself affection from your sexual partner. But a relationship built on sex has little foundation. If the sex dries up, the partner often uses that as justification to walk away.
The appeal of the promiscuous lifestyle remains the supposed freedom it provides. But, inevitably, it just leads to slavery.
Promiscuity pays out in counterfeit money. The resulting relationship built upon sex imitates the real thing (marriage), but it is not genuine. Marriage says love is committed to you for life, no matter what comes. Promiscuity says you can have some of the benefits of the married life, but it won’t be backed by anything substantial.
For money to be worth anything, it has to be backed by something. It has to be worth honoring. What backs the sex in the promiscuous lifestyle?
Not a promise. Not a vow. No obligation to fidelity. No duty to exclusivity. Nothing other than feelings, really. And feelings are fleeting. They move with the wind. If your sail is not open, you won’t go anywhere.
THE PROMISCUOUS LIFESTYLE IS A TRAP
People spellbound by the promiscuous lifestyle are left living a lie. Searching for what will satisfy, they settle for what is only fleeting.
For men, buying flowers or making a surprise visit to their sexual partner’s work earns them credit. They then cash in that credit that night between the sheets.
Women, generally speaking, are searching for affirmation from men. When a man comes along seeking to romance her, she plays along. The attention she craves is being given.
The debt she owes for all those cards and flowers comes due in the evenings in bed. So, she gives him what he wants (sex), so that he’ll give her what she wants (romance).
Over time friendships become harder to form and to maintain for those in the promiscuous lifestyle. This, too, makes sense. Friendship involves forming a bond over shared interests. If all you’re interested in is sex, you will slowly lose the ability to develop friendships of the non-romantic variety. Even same-gender friendships become harder to establish and maintain.
Romance and sex are meant to be the fruits of a relationship built on self-sacrificing love, best exemplified in marriage.
Instead, the promiscuous lifestyle allows its participants to use one another. Once each member has worn on or worn out the other, they are free to move on to someone new.
The appeal of the promiscuous lifestyle remains the supposed freedom it provides. But, inevitably, it just leads to slavery. Slavery to vices like jealousy, fornication, contraception use, abortion, and more.
That’s the devil’s game, isn’t it? He makes sin tantalizing, appealing, and desirable. He doesn’t advertise the promiscuous lifestyle as emptiness and depressing. He can’t be truthful. He sells it as freeing and enjoyable.
Don’t fall for the devil’s game.
To what would you compare the promiscuous lifestyle?
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