Any single ladies out there, listen up. You should end your romantic relationship with your porn-addicted boyfriend.
Any man who views pornography thereby disqualifies himself from being proper marriage material. Since he is not the one to tie the knot with, don’t bother wasting any more time on him.
You deserve better than a man who gets his fix from dirty pictures. Make no mistake, you do not have to put up with that.
Let me spell out three reasons no lady should marry a porn-addicted boyfriend.
1. HE’S SELF-CONSUMED
Face it. A man who views porn likely displays traits you would find undesirable.
Your porn-addicted boyfriend views women lustfully (including you). Viewing porn causes humans to devalue one another. Specifically, in the case of a male, it causes him to reduce women to sexual objects for viewing pleasure. The waitress, the back teller, and the grocery store cashier get rated in his mind. He checks them out, grades their breast size, and wonders what it would be like to get each of them to bed.
He may be critical of your appearance. Your porn-addicted boyfriend may never be satisfied with your looks. Is this how a man ought to treat women?
Your porn-addicted boyfriend may lock himself in social isolation. If you want a husband who can hold a conversation at a dinner party, then the porn addict is not going to make the grade. Porn, like any other addiction, causes social graces to slowly die away.
In place of communal interactions, the porn addict isolates himself in front of his laptop. He finds temporary excitement from the actresses on the porn sites. As a result, his ability to, and even his desire to plan a romantic dinner date with you decreases over time.
2. YOU WILL NOT MEET HIS UNREALISTIC DEMANDS
Let me give you an idea of what you could face in the future, if you marry your porn-addicted boyfriend.
To the porn addict man, all women exist to please him. He will inevitably apply this perception to you.
This means that if you marry a porn-addicted man, then he may not be able to complete the conjugal act with you. He has conditioned his brain to expect hardcore or fast-paced sexuality. You likely will not be able to meet his desires.
On his laptop, in the privacy of his bedroom, he watches women rip their clothes off quickly. He gets excited to listen to her pretend excitement in having sex. He imagines her performing all this for him.
Sadly, men feeding on this fantasy of how women act carry this into real-life relationships.
If you do marry a porn addict, then he may expect you to perform as the porn stars did for him. They subject themselves to terribly degrading acts in front of the camera. They allow themselves to be dominated and physically abused on film.
If your husband has been viewing this erotic material, he likely will be desiring you do some of these same things with him. If you refuse or do not measure up, well then he may not even petition you to have sex with him any longer. He may just get his sexual desires fed online with all the x-rated videos available at his fingertips.
3. IF YOU MARRY A PORN-ADDICTED MAN, HE MAY NEED TO BRING THAT PORN INTO THE BEDROOM WITH YOU
Heavy porn use causes many chemical reactions inside the brain. For men, one of these reactions causes physical sex to be less stimulating. In fact, for many porn addicted men, they cannot ejaculate. I wrote about this irony in the past.
This means that if you marry a porn-addicted man, then he may not be able to complete the conjugal act with you. He has conditioned his brain to expect hardcore or fast-paced sexuality. You likely will not be able to meet his desires.
In order to copulate in real-life sex, many porn-addicted men have to be viewing pornographic material simultaneously.
This means, only by viewing other naked women while in bed with you, might your husband be able to copulate. Does such a man sound desirable?
Is this the type of man who you would want to marry?
IN CLOSING
You should pray for him to change his ways, but still end the relationship. Maybe losing a good girl like you will be the impetus he needs to reorder his life. Maybe down the road, once he’s over his porn addiction, you two might have a future together. But let him sort that out apart from you.
Stay tuned, because my next post will be a follow up to this one. It will cover the importance of the virtue of temperance and why only temperate men are fit to be husbands.
YOUR TURN
If you are a guy, what advice would you add to women dating porn addicts?
If you are a lady, what are your thoughts on today’s post?
Please share your opinions below.
