Regret and depression. These themes can be found in abundance at the website, AfterAbortion.com.
The website serves as a forum for post-abortive women to share their experiences. The site strives to be nonjudgmental and has very strict posting guidelines as to what is allowed to be said. Moderators exist to filter out any comments that do not fit the site’s guidelines.
The website is run by a post-abortive woman who calls herself ‘jilly,’ for purposes of the site. She says she herself has had five abortions. She also claims she struggled with and has overcome Post Abortion Stress Syndrome (PASS). She admits elsewhere on the site PASS has yet to be a recognized by medical professionals, but for those who believe it exists, this forum seeks to help women to heal from it.
Anyone wishing to read the forums or to post their own stories is encouraged to do so. However, you must first register an account, in order to gain access. The website does feature a handful of sample testimonies, as well.
I hereby dare anyone claiming to be pro-choice to register on this site and to spend at least 30 minutes reading the testimonies of these post-abortive women. I then double-dog-dare you (a ‘90s reference) to then see abortion as a celebratory event. Those reading this who are pro-life, I encourage you to check out the testimonies so you can pray for these women.
HERE ARE EXAMPLES OF THE REGRET AND DEPRESSION WOMEN EXPERIENCE AFTER HAVING AN ABORTION
One woman says she was 14 years old when the school’s “heartthrob” got her pregnant. She was scared to tell her dad, but finally did. He took her to have a two-day abortion procedure performed. She tells us now, “After the process I was so depressed and failed every one of my classes and suffered from PASS.” Then she concludes with this whopper: “I still suffer sometimes more than others, I cant [sic] shake the guilt and the feeling that I’m a terrible person and that it was all my fault.”
After relating the play-by-play of her abortion procedure as if she were recalling an event that occurred yesterday, this woman finishes her testimony with heartbreaking words. “I feel like a mad woman but I can’t help it, I feel like Im [sic] just waiting for the day for my punishment to come and it scares me to death. Im [sic] so selfish and I [sic] hate myself so much.”
At the age of 17 another woman says her own mother scheduled her abortion for her on the same day they found out she was pregnant. The pregnant woman’s boyfriend tried to persuade the pregnant woman’s mother he would care for the baby, but that didn’t matter. They all went to the abortion mill and went through with the evil deed. This woman laments, “Since then I have had reoccurring nightmares, it is hard for me to see my godchild [sic] because her mother conceived the day of my abortion. I still cry alot, [sic] not as much as I used to though. Every now and then my fiancée [sic] and I will talk about our child. I catch him crying sometimes when we leave from seeing our goddaughter [sic] or when we start talking about our future family, he always refers to our 1st child as our 2nd. To this day, I still haven’t told my father what happened.”
With a 2-year-old and a nine-month-old already in her care, one woman explains she felt she could not provide for a third child. She explains, “I [sic] can’t look at a baby the same way since then, thinking it could have been mine. Anyone has the same feeling I [sic] have? Please [sic] let me know I [sic] don’t know if it’s normal. In November that baby would have been born, in that same month my first son, now 3yrs old was born. I have mix-feeling about November, i [sic] had my greatest joy and also my deepest regret in that same month. Sad and longing for a child unborn.”
Example 5 – Regret and Depression mentioned at once
A married woman with two kids describes the regret she and her husband had following their decision to abort. She expounds, “I have always been pro-life. I always thought there was a way to work things out, that killing babies was not the answer. I have an adopted brother myself. But in a hormonal, desperate state my husband and I had and abortion about 2 weeks ago. It has been horrible. We both know that we made a horrible mistake and wished like hell we would have backed out that snowy day. He was very supportive of any decision I made. But when your [sic] depressed it’s very hard to make a decision… Having an abortion is much harder than having a baby.”
In another testimony a young woman describes how hurt and lonely she felt that her boyfriend left her following the abortion he urged her to have.
“Just recently I choose to talk to him about it again and he told me I should be over it and move, that really hurt. I do not know why I still expect him to care because he never really has, but I really wish he did. I thought since we had been together over a year, he might care about me, but I can for sure say he does not and so I must move on. I can only say now 7 months later that I am forgetting about me, but I will never forgive me.”
Example 7 – More regret and depression
One woman describes how devastated she was to learn she had become pregnant after having premarital sex. At the age of 18 she went through with the abortion. This lady says although she is convinced she had a girl and she even named her daughter. She also says she might never be able to get pregnant again. She laments, “Luckily, I only had to take some tablets to induce the miscarriage, but God, I have to live with this every day of my life. I regret my decision so much… At the present, I still feel extremely depressed over it… I’ve also found out recently that I’ve got polycystic syndrome… There’s a chance I won’t be able to have children, and that’s the worst thing. I keep thinking [sic] how ironic it is and that I’m being punished for what I did. Now pregnancy dominates my thoughts all the time, and I wish with all my heart that I could turn back time, but I can’t. I’ll have to live with this for life!!!”
(All emphasis in these testimonies above has been added.)
You are welcome to visit afterabortion.com, a website started by a post-abortive woman. You can read testimonies and share your own story of how abortion has affect you personally.
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